If you’ve ever worried that premature ejaculation might ruin your relationship, you’re not alone. But how much does PE actually matter to women? I’ve slept with way over 100 women and had many conversations with them about this topic.
So in today's post you'll discover:
- Definition of Premature Ejaculation
- What women really think if I finish too early in bed
- Why strong erection is more important than lasting longer
- Actionable steps to fix PE and ED
1. What is the definition of PE?
PE is defined as ejaculating within 1-2 minutes of penetration. But what do women consider ideal?
2. Ideal sex duration?
According to public surveys and studies the ideal sex duration ranges fro 5-30 min, with 7-13 min being the "sweet spot."
And that's very different from what men think - most men think they need to last for hours in bed.
Most women prioritize quality over marathon sessions. Good erection, good stamina, but 5-7-13 min is usually MORE than enough.
3. Is PE a Dealbreaker for Women?
Short answer: Yes — if it’s consistent and she has options.
Women value sexual satisfaction deeply. A few “quick finishes” might slide, but repeated PE can push them away.
Before I learned to last longer in bed women would leave me after first 1 or 2 nights of horrible sex. It ended as soon as I started lasting longer in bed.
That's also something that many men know.
But here’s the twist: Women care even more about your erection quality.
“A bad erection is an instant blow to her ego. She’ll question if she’s attractive. A strong erection with PE? Still better than limp stamina.”
4. Why Erections Matter More Than Stamina
Most men think it's just the duration, but the erection quality is actually more important for her. First of all - it's an honest signal for you overall health. If you have a soft erection - then maybe you're not healthy and thus have bad DNA material for offspring.
But psychologically there is more. She feels threatened in her identity if you don't get an erection with her. Here's why:
Impact on Her Self-Esteem
- A weak erection can make her feel unwanted.
- She might think she’s not sexy enough for you.
- Her world breaks down and she starts thinking she's ugly or fat or whatever.
Multiple Rounds as a Game-Changer
With a solid erection, you can go for round 2 or 3, which often covers for finishing fast. About half the guys with PE also deal with some erectile dysfunction (ED), usually from anxiety. So it's important to fix that. Because a good erection:
- Makes her feel desired (“I’m sexy enough to turn him on again and again”).
- Lets you recover faster for a longer round two (even with PE).
- Lets you avoid the deadly spiral: Weak erection → anxiety → worse performance.
So it's better to have some PE problems but have a great erection, rather then the other way around.
5. So, What Do Women Really Want ?
Bottom line is this. If you finish early every time, and she has options, you will be replaced most likely. But that doesn't mean that "hours of strong sex" is all they want. Some do, but most don't. Here's what women really want:
- “Occasional Sex workouts”: Occasional intense, passionate sessions (think 10-30 minutes), but NOT a marathon every time
- 1-2 min is too little, 5-7 is the lowest end you need
- A good erection is a MUST, otherwise she feels ugly or undesired
- Emotional connection: Intimacy matters more than acrobatics.
- Variety: Mix quickies with longer sessions to keep things exciting.
6. Your Next Step If You have PE or ED
If PE or ED are holding you back:
- Book a free call with me here.
- In this call we’ll dissect your situation — PE, ED, or both.
- Build a tailored plan to:
- Boost erection quality
- Extend stamina naturally
- Restore sexual confidence
I've already helped hundreds of guys last longer in bed and there's no reason why you couldn't do the same. Book your free call here and let's make you a sex machine 🤘
